what a week

we have been on the go since wed. morning. got up at dawn and drove to worcester by 9:30---AM. shudder, shudder picked up alex and drove home. i went to work for j. and then worked the overnight and carol manned the alex ship. playing, baths and bed. with a visit from his social worker just for good measure.

thurs. i slept for four hours until our social worker came and carol was otherwise in charge again. i worked overnight.

fri. i slept for 5 hours and carol was in charge until we all went to jenya's for my last day and so alex could meet her and visa versa. i worked overnight and once again carol was in charge.

sat. we drove out to hudson to pick up nick for an overnight. we stopped at bertucci's and had our first family in a restaurant meal. they were very well behaved. we had play and baths and bed. they got up at some point during the night and only ripped up one thing, so that was a success also.

today we went to the play space at the atrium mall because of the rain and then took nick back to hudson. so far this afternoon we played in the yard, planted seeds, started to put away all their clothes--you would think they had been rich kids from wellesley from the amount of clothes and stuff they have. now the people who used to live here dropped by with a clock that she bought for the kitchen and it didn't work in their house so they brought it back.

so i can't imagine why we haven't talked to anyone, lol. tues. we visit nick again where he is in hudson. and sat. he sleeps over again. he moves in for good on the 7th of may. the day before mother's day. we didn't even realize that when we were setting up the schedule. cosmic or what?

tomorrow is the big day.

today we visited nick for the first time at his foster home. he seemed glad to see us and was incredibly cute. spent most of the time bouncing a little basketball and kicking it under the deck to see which idiotic grownup would crawl under and get it for him. since that is one of my favorite pasttimes--having idiotic grownups do things for me, not kicking a basketball--we are going to get along great.

we were supposed to visit alex after that but when we got there noone was home. i am sure they were out and running late, but i have to admit that i briefly considered that they had kidnapped him and were at logan getting on a flight to whatever latin american country they are from. i need to get a grip. they will be there tomorrow and everything will go smoothly and we will have one of our little boys.

i just got the good news that i can work fri. and sat. overnight and one other to be determined by when they need me. that means that we will only have one morning a week that we need before school coverage for. every other day i will be there so the boss can go to work. i am secretly hoping that the gods will smile upon me and we will be able to afford for me to work only two days, but the chances of that are slim to none. i would love to never have to work again. i definately wouldn't be one of those people who are interviewed after winning the lottery and say that they will continue to work at the factory and live in their trailor and just get some new naked lady mudflaps for their 1973 chevy pickup. there, see i was able to work freaks into this post without ragging all over the new pope.

speaking of which, i just read rogue slayer's post on the new pope and am even more discouraged than ever. he is 78 though..........
if i believed in hell i would be afraid for my accomodations in the hereafter, but i don't and i am not.

nick at school in a bucket

nick at school in a bucket, originally uploaded by delilahsmom.

nothing is funnier than climbing into a bucket and flipping it over.

nick and his social worker

nick and his social worker, originally uploaded by delilahsmom.

check out those monster teeth, don't all little kids with second teeth look funny?

carol and alex

carol and alex, originally uploaded by delilahsmom.

i can't believe how cute he is, it catches me offguard everytime.

me and alex

me and alex, originally uploaded by delilahsmom.

how worried does he look? lol

if you look closely on the top of the toy shelf you will see that jerry is watching. i had really lobbied for a tye dye room but that didn't fly with the boss.

too busy for freak spotting

although that darned pope is still dominating the news. is it a sign from god? hmmmmm

that said, we had our first sleepover with alex on sat. this is what i had to say to my sister
"he was surprisingly great. we picked him up at 4 and drove home via the supermarket and the park. in the car before we went into the store we learned that if you run in the store they will tell you to get out. this seemed to help and he was normally active in the store. he had the choice of walking and holding someone's hand or going in the carriage. he walked.

at the park, the kid who they described as needing constant supervision due to fearlessness scooted down high steps on his butt and wouldn't go down most of the slides. he lay on his belly on the swing but didn't want to sit in the seat alone or with someone. he didn't try to run away or act like a crazy kid. i did meet a lady who asked if we were both his moms and when i said yes, she said 'oh, then your....." i said yes we are. lol

he ate macaroni and cheese, corn, and fried catfish for dinner. the catfish was a let's see what he does, and he asked for more. but everyone says he eats better than nick.

he had a bath, and some cartoon, and then a story and bed. the story is what you would expect a 2yr. to do by way of listening. he wanted to turn the pages and we just talked about the pictures. he stayed in bed and fell asleep by 9. and didn't wake up until 8:30 this morning.

we had breakfast and played in the yard and then had some lunch and dropped him off at 1pm. that is what i call a success. now let's see what he does when he comes on wed and doesn't get to go home."

he won't go home on wed. because wed. is the day that this becomes his home. we are excited and a little anxious. we have been waiting for so long and now in the spirit of all things dss things are moving so fast we can barely keep up.

did i mention just how cute they are? i was afraid to post pictures because of confidentiality but now that they are ours i guess i can. so pictures will be coming soon.

tomorrow we go visit them both. and wed. morning at 9:30 we pick up alex for good. because we are getting them earlier than expected it didn't give us too much time to freak out. so that is good.

Things are moving right along

We have a schedule. Alex will move in on the 29. and Nick will move in two weeks later. we had an outing today with the boys, their social worker and nick's present foster mother to the mall. it was my second time meeting alex and our first time meeting nick. it was a big success. they are so cute and surprisingly well behaved. it is surprising considering how they have been described as being such a hand full. i think it is part of the process to almost see if they can discourage you. they were no more "trouble" than other kids i have taken care of considering their situation and delays. next saturday we start sleepovers. i can't wait.


and in keeping with the general theme of this blog--freaks--let me tell you that we watched punch drunk love tonight. let me preface this by saying i think adam sandler is a genius. i laugh just thinking about him. and i loved 50 first dates which wasn't a typical sandler vehicle. having said that, i would rather eat glass than have to sit through pdl again. i just thank all that is good that it was only 95 minutes long. it was unbearable. and to make it even worse the person who wrote the blurb on the dvd wrapper must not have seen the movie. all the major "plot" points were wrong. as a public service i am going straight to netflix now and put in my "2 cents" for the movie. do not under any circumstances watch this movie. i am seriously considering writing to adam and advising him to fire whoever told him that it would be good for him to make this piece of crap. i am hoping that the longest yard will redeem him for me. consider yourself warned.

Great news!

Although there are many freaks to be commented on--ok the pope was old and is now dead, we get it---I have great news.

We are getting the boys. And soon. How soon exactly we don't know because the dss system is one big collection of freaks, but soon. We are painting and buying all kinds of neat star related things for their room. Not stars like famous people, the planetary kind. They have glow in the dark sheets which we just couldn't resist. So a theme was born. We painted their room dark blue and will be putting glow in the dark stars on the ceiling to go with the sheets. It is so much better than the Toy Story room we were considering.

I spent most of today calling foster parents, doctors, special ed. teachers, etc. They want you to have all the information about the kids before you totally commit. Which is ridiculous because short of hearing "they are convicted killers in little kid bodies" we are getting them. Luckily for us everyone said they are great and happy and loving and just basically the best. Both foster mothers said they would have considered keeping them if they didn't already have a ton of kids already.
Seriously, the woman who had the for the last 15 months has a 15, 12, special needs 9 year old and an infant. And she apologised for not having them potty trained. I told her she was a saint for taking such good care of them. I will get them potty trained soon enough.